Menopause

Menopause, Mental Load, and Why Your Body Is Not Misbehaving

Menopause is one of the most misunderstood transitions in a woman’s life. We are told it is a problem to fix, a phase to survive, or a sign that we are somehow fading. In reality, it is none of these things. Menopause is a powerful internal shift. It is the body preparing you for your wise woman era. And yes, sometimes that wise woman arrives like a chaotic aunt in a kaftan who knocks over furniture, shouts at strangers, and sets fire to your patience at 2am. But beneath the chaos is deep transformation.

I’m inviting you to see menopause differently. Not as an ending. Not as a betrayal. But as a rebalance. A rising. A fierce call back to yourself.

As a kinesiologist and mind body practitioner, I support women who are stepping into this transition. Many arrive exhausted, overwhelmed, and convinced that something is wrong with them. But menopause is not your body misbehaving. It is your body speaking. And when we listen, everything changes.

What Menopause Is Really About

Most people think menopause is simply hormones shutting up shop and disappearing. In truth, it is a complete recalibration of your internal world. If your life were a house, oestrogen would be the magical glue that held the structure together. It helped you stay patient, tolerant, nurturing, and able to juggle seventeen things at once without wanting to scream into a pillow.

As oestrogen declines, it is not just hormones shifting. It is your sense of self rising to the surface. Your filter gets thinner. The things you could once brush off start to feel intolerable. Your body stops whispering and starts shouting.

Hot flushes, insomnia, irritability, mood swings, anxiety, brain fog, memory blips, weight changes, emotional overwhelm. None of this means you are losing your touch. It means your body is reorganising you from the inside out.

Menopause asks you to stop abandoning yourself. It removes the padding. It strips away the tolerance for nonsense. It makes truth louder.

This is not decline. This is clarity.

The Mental Load and Why It Gets Heavier

Menopause does not arrive in a vacuum. It lands on top of the mental load that women carry every day. The invisible labour that keeps families, workplaces, and households running.

• The remembering of birthdays.
  
• The managing of school schedules.
  
• The caring for ageing parents.
  
• The emotional support everyone assumes you will provide.
  
• The toilet paper logistics.
  
• The endless decisions.
  
• The mental juggling of life.
  

On top of that, you are expected to have a career, drink enough water, maintain relationships, and occasionally locate your missing keys.

As your hormones shift, your tolerance for this load drops. Dramatically. Not because you are failing, but because you have been over functioning for years. Menopause exposes what has been unsustainable for a long time. It pulls the brakes on people pleasing. It says enough.

Old coping strategies stop working. Your body refuses to carry what your mind says you can push through. And although this can feel uncomfortable, it is also profoundly liberating.

Menopause asks you to renegotiate your life so it supports you, not just everyone around you.

Entering the Yin Phase of Life

Menopause is your invitation into the yin phase. Modern life is full of yang energy. Busy, productive, fiery, striving. Many women spend decades living in a state of constant doing. Menopause is the point where that level of output becomes unsustainable.

Yin is your inward energy. Soft, intuitive, reflective, restorative. This phase of life guides you towards slowing down, tuning in, and turning back towards yourself.

Many women describe menopause as a loss of identity, but what they are losing are the performed parts of themselves. The versions that were tolerated, expected, or demanded.

Your inner wise woman rises in the yin phase. She shows you what is no longer aligned. She sharpens your intuition. She amplifies your boundaries. She helps you recognise irritation not as misbehaviour but as a sign of unmet needs.

Menopause is not about fading. It is about becoming.

How Kinesiology Supports the Menopause Journey

Here is where kinesiology becomes a powerful ally. Kinesiology is not a magic wand, but it comes impressively close. It is your body’s direct line of communication. Your body always knows what is wrong and what it needs to correct it. Muscle testing helps translate that wisdom.

In menopause, kinesiology supports the areas that feel most overwhelming:

• Nervous system dysregulation
  
• Emotional overload
  
• Mood instability
  
• Sleep disturbances
  
• Fatigue and burnout
  
• Anxiety and brain fog
  
• Sensitivity to noise and stress
  
• Resurfacing old trauma
  
• Loss of identity
  
• The sheer weight of the mental load
  
• Hormone stress and adrenal exhaustion
  

Women often come to me feeling broken. They are exhausted, frustrated, tearful, overwhelmed, and convinced they should be coping better. Within a few sessions, something begins to shift. Not because I fix them, but because their body moves out of survival mode and into a space where healing becomes possible.

Menopause is not only hormonal. It is emotional, mental, energetic, and ancestral. Your body holds layers of experience. Kinesiology helps to unlock and release what has been silently shaping your responses for decades.

It supports you in breaking free from:

• Generational conditioning
  
• Chronic overgiving
  
• Emotional suppression
  
• Internalised expectations
  
• Self abandonment
  
• Deep seated patterns of stress
  

When the body feels safe, the mind becomes clearer. The emotions soften. The nervous system steadies. You can think, sleep, breathe, rest, and function in a way that feels balanced again.

Breaking Free From Family Patterns and Trauma

Menopause has a habit of waking things up. Old wounds become loud. Past experiences make themselves known. The parts of you that coped, hid, or tolerated begin to crack. Not because you are falling apart but because your body refuses to carry what it once did.

Many women discover, during menopause, that the patterns they grew up with start to feel unbearable. The roles they played no longer fit. The expectations placed on them become too heavy to ignore.

• Your body says no.
  
• No to repeating generational trauma.
  
• No to carrying what was never yours.
  
• No to staying small or silent.
  
• This phase clears out what has been holding you back. It is a cleansing. A shedding. A release.
  
• You are not breaking.
  
• You are breaking free.
  

How I Support You Holistically

Every woman’s menopause journey is unique. There is no universal blueprint and no one size fits all solution. My work combines kinesiology with a range of holistic and somatic tools to support your mind, body, and energy.

My approach includes:

• Kinesiology
  
• Mind body medicine
  
• Somatic awareness
  
• Nervous system regulation
  
• Energy alignment
  
• Emotional release work
  
• Human design deconditioning
  
• SoulNar sound healing
  
• Gentle lifestyle guidance
  

Our sessions are calm, grounding, and deeply supportive. Together we unravel what your body is holding. You learn how to listen to your signals, reduce overwhelm, strengthen your boundaries, and honour your yin.

You reconnect with yourself in ways many women did not realise they had lost.

You learn how to:

• Understand what your body is trying to communicate
  
• Restore emotional balance
  
• Reduce overstimulation
  
• Break old habits that drain you
  
• Recharge your energy stores
  
• Move through change with more grace
  
• Support your nervous system
  
• Trust your intuitive voice as it gets louder
  

You do not need to walk this chapter alone. Support helps you move through menopause with strength, softness, clarity, and far less suffering.

The Wise Woman Era

Menopause is not the fading of your power. It is the ignition of it. Your intuition sharpens. Your boundaries strengthen. Your voice becomes impossible to silence. What once felt hazy becomes non negotiable.

• Your exhaustion is not laziness.
  
• Your anger is not failure.
  
• Your tears are not weakness.
  
• Your fluctuations are not decline.
  
• Your changing body is not betraying you.
  
• It is guiding you.
  
• You are not falling apart.
  
• You are becoming whole.
  

If you are ready to feel supported as you move through this transition, I am here to help you understand your body, regulate your nervous system, release emotional weight, and step into your wise woman era with confidence.

Book an appointment to begin your next chapter feeling grounded, empowered, and held.